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Unintended consequences
Regrettable inactions 
7th-Nov-2010 11:30 pm
Casual
We have be brought up in an safe environment where risk taking is considered cool. By safe, I mean a world free of wars, a country if not world with far lesser hunger than our previous generations, a place where tens of millions of people have a "hotline" facility to a bunch of people they wish to be touch with. As in such a day and age, Mark Twain's quote Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did has naturally gained quite some popularity.

As I look back at the last ten years of my life, I can think of not just things I should have done but at the possibly different persons I could have been. And along with that would come a very different set of experiences that I could have had. This notorious what if situation is quite an emotional killer. When I initially had the urge to write about this topic, I searched online for that exact quite by Twain and discovered a more fuller version which goes as follows Life is short, break the rules, forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. That gave it a whole different meaning.

I've always maintained the view that life is actually long and not short. It is because life is long that we get to reflect back and ponder over how different it could have been. The trick is that though life may be long, I believe there is such a thing as the best phase to do certain things, and that is the root cause of regrettable inactions. It is not that I cannot now do what I think I should have done 10 years ago. It is that even though I may do it now, I believe it won't be a tenth as good had I done it back then.

The severely understated part of the whole idea however is never regret anything that made you smile. As the fabled Albus Dumbledore says The choices we make create the lives we lead. By not choosing to take the myriad different paths and not doing the limitless number of things we could have done, we would have actually done something and taken a certain path. And if that path made us smile in those moments, then we should probably let them be; for what our emotions fail to do is to illustrate what we now take for granted would not have been available to us in that fantasied alternate universe that we so lament not being in.
Comments 
7th-Nov-2010 07:01 pm (UTC)
Great post!
8th-Nov-2010 05:47 pm (UTC)
What? A comment from a registered user? People still use LJ? Really? I think I should start writing again :-)
9th-Nov-2010 04:42 pm (UTC)
Hah. YM even put LJ's notification of your reply in the Spam folder. It sure feels like a ghost town here.
5th-Mar-2011 01:17 pm (UTC) - Благодарность и уважение
Anonymous
Cупер статья.Очень хорошо и подробно вы описали, спасибо.
3rd-Jan-2012 02:41 pm (UTC)
There was a time when you could not stand Albus Dumbledore. Glad to see a convert.
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